Thursday, December 31, 2009

20 Months & 10 days

As I have been trying to pack and get ready to move, I've been going through some of Kate's clothes and picking out the ones that Mia can fit in to, setting them aside and boxing up those that she has outgrown. Each little outfit of Kate's has so much meaning and it's so great {for me} to see Mia wearing her little skirts and jammies and bows and shoes. After Kate passed away, I didn't think I could bear to have anyone else wear them, even her little sister. It was a debate I had with myself the three weeks before Mia was born. I finally made the decision that I wanted to have sweet memories of Kate every day. Having these small little reminders of her each day sure puts a smile on my face.


Kate was 20 months and 10 days when she passed away. As I was organizing her clothes and thinking back to the time that Kate wore each little outfit, I started thinking that Mia would be close to the same age now that Kate was when she died. I did the math and realized that Mia is exactly 20 months and 10 days today. These are small tender mercies, but I am so grateful that I have them every now and then.

My brother, Greg, gave the most beautiful talk at Kate's funeral. He gave an analogy of Kate and Mia at the airport; Kate returning from a wonderful trip and Mia getting ready for a new adventure. They see each other; Kate going one way and Mia going the other. When they meet, they embrace each other and Mia asks Kate to tell her all about this wonderful trip and the people she met. Kate tells her:

1) Get used to having dumb curlers in your hair because Mom is obsessed with curlers.
2) Don't get attached to ANYTHING because dad loves selling things
3) Oh, and you will probably have a sweet tooth because mom LOVES treats, and dad does too!

I love to imagine the reunion they must have had. I miss Kate EVERY day, but am so very grateful for Mia and the sweet reminder of Kate she is. They are two very different, but special, angels to me and I feel so very lucky that I am their mama!


9 comments:

Wilcox Family said...

So touched by this post. I am glad that you are blessed with those tender mercies, they are definitely what carry you through each day and what could be otherwise difficult times. I'm glad that you chose to have those daily remembrances of your dear sweet angel. It was great to see you today. We miss you.

Brittni said...

So sweet!

Jen said...

awwww how sweet! I'm sorry I missed Greg's wnderful talk. Such a celebration of Kate's life!

Lindsay said...

This put a smile on my face today :) You are a wonderful mother.

Ruth H. said...

Thanks, Marcae, for sharing your experiences. I'm so glad that you get to see Mia wearing her big sister's clothes. It will be so fun for her when she gets older and can look at pictures of she and Kate wearing the same things. I'm sure she will love having that connection.

katie said...

I love this post. Definitely a tender mercy. I remember the sweet talk that Greg gave. It was so special. I love you and miss you already. It's so neat to know that Kate will be with you wherever you go. Love ya!

Vicki said...

I think of Kate often and miss you guys so much! I'm excited for you and your new journey coming up though. I'm so glad you came to church so we could say goodbye. You are such a great friend and I will miss you so much! Please keep in touch with us! Hope all goes well with the move! Love you!

Meladie said...

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I, too, am grateful for tender mercies. I was very touched by this post.

ryanfam said...

Always tears when I read these posts. Again, thank you for making being a mother the most precious gift and for constantly reminding all mothers how blessed we truly are